SPEAKER_00 0:21

Welcome to T Bob. This is Christy. This is Ashley. How you doing, girl?

SPEAKER_01 0:25

I'm good. I got a little bit of drink.

SPEAKER_00 0:27

Got a drink. Got a drink, drink. Somebody pull me a drink. I don't know anything past that. Somebody's gonna do it. It doesn't matter. I actually don't like it. Stop. Stop if you went too far. No, stop. Hey, I owe you an apology. Per what? So you got bangs. And in that episode, we acknowledge that you got bangs. And I didn't say in that episode that they're very cute, and they are very cute. Oh. So I wanted to offer you that apology because when I re-listened to that episode, it was like, wow, I was roasting you.

SPEAKER_01 0:58

You were roasting me?

SPEAKER_00 0:59

I don't remember that. Not like a solid roast, but I never complimented you on the bangs, and I do think they're cute. That's okay. They like we just only talked about how they were crisis bangs, but like they are crisis bangs. They're also a crisis right now because you said they're bugging.

SPEAKER_01 1:11

They're driving me freaking bananas. And that's a surprise to nobody in my family because everybody said don't get bangs, they're gonna bug you.

SPEAKER_00 1:18

And you you probably could do like a weekly trim, like just pron, like straight, and then go, oh, that's gonna be uh like a small fraction.

SPEAKER_01 1:29

Can you imagine? I'm gonna come in and they're gonna be like, like, Christy, I went too far.

SPEAKER_00 1:34

No, each week they just get shorter and shorter.

SPEAKER_01 1:36

I'm really in crisis now. They just stick out straight. Straight out of my head. We're like, did your kids cut your things? Yeah, there was an accident. You know, the front of my head is none of my business.

SPEAKER_00 1:48

The back of your head's none of your business, the front of your head's none of your business. My head's none of my business.

SPEAKER_01 1:53

No, I pulled them to the side today because they're bugging.

SPEAKER_00 1:55

They're cute. If you're watching us on YouTube, you can see how cute they are.

SPEAKER_01 1:59

You can also see my weird shirt that I can't feel comfortable in. It's fine. It's because the line is off. The line is off.

SPEAKER_00 2:05

It's like right, it's we don't have to go any farther than saying that. It's we're only getting. Let's dive in. Okay, let's do it. Okay. So I want to talk to you today about something that I have really grasped onto in the last couple years. Okay. And this is a thought, a mantra, uh, a way of like when somebody's like, How are you doing? And you can just say these three words, and it's like, Oh, I I hear you, sister. Okay. Not great, Jan. Not great. Sure, Jan. Okay. So let me set the scene. So I'm gonna get my hair done by my cute hair lady. Okay, which is also my aunt. Yeah, Shadow. And my um one of my besties, we also get our hair done together. So we like she double bucks us. Oh, cool. Because she like flips us like um, you know. Like a house. No, no, she doesn't flip us like a house. She just like starts one of us first, and then while I'm processing, my friend is getting her like a color on, and then when and then when her color is on, if she's processing, I'm getting my hair washed and cut. So yeah, not like a house at all. Thank you. I'm not a house. You know what, Ashley? It's my turn to be sabotage. Ashley, get your life together. Okay.

SPEAKER_01 3:17

I am together.

SPEAKER_00 3:18

So, oops, sorry, dropping an MRIA machine.

SPEAKER_01 3:23

Oh my god! Oh, I have to tell you something too. Tell me. Sorry, sorry. We might have to cut this too, but no, I'm not. So what you know, Devin, he said that when he was listening to the cooking episode, he had to go back because he thought he he thought you said cucking. Like cuck chair. Oh and he is like, what? It's like I really had to go back and listen. Well, what did I say? Cooking? Cooking, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 3:51

Oh, but he's like that says a lot about him.

SPEAKER_01 3:53

I know I know, and I promised him I would tell you, and then I totally forgot last time.

SPEAKER_00 3:59

It's been a while. That's not getting cut out of this episode.

SPEAKER_01 4:01

Oh, okay. Okay, no.

SPEAKER_00 4:02

I'm gonna edit this one and it's not coming out. Just for the record, Christy is not into cooking, she's into cooking with an O. Two O's. Two O's. That part might get cut. My gosh. Okay, so let's let's get back to the salon and me getting my hair done. Right. Me getting my hair done. And I'm talking and I'm just like overwhelmed. And I can't remember the exact context of it, but essentially I was just being like, I'm so sick of swag, which I've told you before. Like, I am sick of swag. I am I am and and I am a provider of swag in some events. Yeah. And I absolutely see the necessity of swag. I get it, it's a marketing thing. We need swag. Yeah. But I'm also just like so sick of it. And and and when I am at these events where we are offering swag and I just see these bags of swag, I'm just like, that's gonna go and just clutter your life.

SPEAKER_01 4:57

And also the copious amounts of papers that you get, and then you just end up throwing half of that stuff away, anyways. What I want to do is just put a QR code on like something and then like, oh, here we go. I'll tell you what swag I like.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

Edible swag. So chips. Chips, candy, candy, soda pop. Anyways, I don't I don't love the 50,000 pens that work one time. Yeah. Um, anyways, so I was just talking with my cute hair lady and my friend about just like being like overwhelmed with like just the amount of stuff, and it's just like literally everything you sign up for, it makes me not want to sign up for anything because I'm like, I don't want to get another shirt that feels like cardboard. I don't want to get another water bottle that like is an off-brand of the real brand, like and it doesn't really work. And I'm just like, I'm it's just too much stuff. I'm just I I don't like stuff. I don't like buying stuff to buy stuff.

SPEAKER_01 5:52

Yeah, like and but in this case, like being given free stuff. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

So one thing about me is I don't like stuff. Yeah, no, first I definitely participate in buying too much stuff, and I don't like that about myself.

SPEAKER_01 6:06

Right, yeah, I don't think any of us do. I think we're all coming to the realization of like stop buying the stuff.

SPEAKER_00 6:10

There's too much, there's just too much, too much stuff. Um, anyways, and I just was like, I have too many cups. Like, I think we were talking about a particular thing, and I was like, because I think if I'm remembering correctly, like I I had either just won a cup or my spouse had just won a cup, and I was like, Why did why did we sign up for this? I don't want another cup. Yeah, I already have enough cups, I don't want more cups. And I was like, there's just too much cups. Yeah, and then we were like, oh my gosh. And it was like the three of us had this realization of like too many cups, too many cups. Literally, metaphorically, we have too many cups, and I'm sick of it. Okay, and it's like, why do we have so many cups? Because everywhere you go, you get a cup, literally and metaphorically. So every time I say cup now, guys, like think about it literally and metaphorically.

SPEAKER_01 7:01

This is now a drinking game. Yeah. You have to drink out of your cup, too many cups. Don't too cute. And then you'll die.

SPEAKER_00 7:06

No, don't do it. Um gosh, Ashley. I'm sorry. Okay, but it's just like everywhere you go, you get a cup, you get a free cup, a cute cup. This would be great for iced coffee. This would like everything you buy is like, oh, this would be so good for XYZ. This would be so good for this. And suddenly I'm living in a Jay-Z lyric where I'm like, I got 99 cups and a bitch ain't one. Just kidding. I have 99 cups and I only use one. Only use one.

SPEAKER_01 7:32

Seriously, though. So there's only like four coffee cups that I absolutely love. Why do you have the others? I don't know why I have the others, but I have them. Why do I have multiple water bottles?

SPEAKER_00 7:42

Why do I have multiple water bottles? Why do I have why do I have water bottles that can't go in the dishwasher? The or oh can only go on the top. Right. So exactly. Everything should be dishwasher safe. And I'm and I'm not a girly that like matches my water bottle to my outfit. Like, have you ever seen those? Uh I'm an I'm absolutely throwing shade at people that match their water bottle to their outfit. Like, if you have the space and energy and money and space to match your outfit to your water bottle to your Stanley or whatever we're using these days, Awala's, like, no. Girl, read a book. Girl, get a hobby. Boy, read a book.

SPEAKER_01 8:21

Boys don't care that much.

SPEAKER_00 8:23

I don't know, man. I think some of them do. I think some. So I yeah.

SPEAKER_01 8:27

There are other things in the world going on right now that you should that should be the bottom of your list, my dudes. No.

SPEAKER_00 8:33

So it's just like, girl, I have one water bottle. It's my dusty rose a walla. It's the only one I need. If it's in my cup holder, it does its job. It the lid locks. Yeah. We're all good. She's the one. I don't need more. Love it. But that's the problem, is we don't just do it with a literal cup. We do it with everything. Everything. Everything. We do it with everything. We keep things, physical things, thoughts, commitments. Not because we love them or actually need them. It's because we feel bad that we got them. And then we feel bad about getting rid of them. Yeah. So like I I have been using this little mantra, also another little mantra, of like you already made the mistake when you bought it or you got it. Oh yeah. So like your mistake is not throwing it away. Your mistake was that you initially bought it or got it.

SPEAKER_01 9:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:21

Um But we do, we do feel bad about it. So all I could say is that one hair appointment where we're just sitting there, the three of us, the only three words that come to mind is too many cups. And my aunt asked me, How you doing? And I'm like, Too many cups. Changed your life. Or I'm talking to my friend and she's saying something, and I just look at her and I say, Too many cups. Or she looks at me and says, Too many cups. Too many cups. I love that. Yeah, it's too many cups.

SPEAKER_01 9:45

Add it to the merch ideas. Yeah. Too many cups. Yeah, because we're gonna have speaking of too many cups. But it's like make a water bottle that says too many cups.

SPEAKER_00 9:55

No, we're not. I I will not. I love a sticker. A sticker. A sticker's easy. A sticker's small. A sticker is like a sticker has a limited time use. Like you put it on your your water bottle, your laptop, you whatever, and it lasts as long as it's gonna last, and then it comes off. Yep. Not a cup. A cup just lives, lives on and on and on and on forever.

SPEAKER_01 10:16

And on and on and on. Yep.

SPEAKER_00 10:19

Um, anyways, but yeah, so we all have the cup and we still just don't get rid of the others. We need to figure out how to get rid of the others. And it's not because they're not still good, yeah. But they're reusable. I could use them, but it's just that we feel guilty getting rid of them or donated them because it's like, what if we need it? That's my big thing, is I was like, what if I need it? But I feel like I've gotten over that in the last few years because I'm just like you already made the mistake. Yeah, you already made it.

SPEAKER_01 10:45

So also it's not like it's gonna be hard to get another one. Like if you absolutely need it, you'll find one, you'll find a solution. Okay, so here's a here's a hot take.

SPEAKER_00 10:57

And this is this is not what I wrote in the podcast, so this is a Christie tangent on my own episode. I'm tangenting. Yes, girl. Do a lady. Let's stop doing yard sales. Let's just let's just do yard giveaways, yard swaps. You are moving, yeah, and you have a bunch of crap in your garage, you have a bunch of crap in your house, rather than like nickel and diming everybody and being like, oh, this is like 50 cents, and like who's making change? I mean, maybe we're using Venmo. Just say, hey, guess what? I'm giving away a bunch of free stuff. There might be some for cost items, yeah, but for the most part, like I don't know, like you just have so many items and you're like, well, I can either throw this away or I could give it away to somebody. I just I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 11:41

I love I would much rather give ham-me-downs to people, yeah, like especially like a new mom. I love being able to give any of that stuff because kids' stuff is so expensive. I love the giving all that stuff away to the stuff.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

So infrequent, and then they also either destroy it or barely use it.

SPEAKER_01 11:58

It's still brand new. Yeah. And I love being able to give it away because then I feel like if you give it to one of these, and no shade to like, you know, like savers or anything like that, but I feel like you're just making people have to purchase something that you could have just given them.

SPEAKER_00 12:11

I'm making somebody purchase something that I would in no without even thinking twice, throw it straight in the garbage. So just shipping to them. So no, but that's what I'm saying is so rather than a yard sell, a yard giveaway, I literally just put out all the things I don't want and then let let the community come and be like, oh, you know what? Actually, I really can use this thing that you're not using anymore. I will take it, and then anything left over, I can go donate or trash it. But anyways, so just a hot plug, let's just do yard giveaways. Like community swaps. We don't even have to swap anything. Come take anything. I don't care.

SPEAKER_01 12:42

I know, but like if if I have something, you know, like a swap, that'd be nice. That'd be really nice. Yeah. So I just need it's just it's the not knowing of who needs it. I have that stuff right now that I'm like, I need to get rid of this, it's still good quality, it's beautiful, but I don't want to make have let some corporation get profit off of it for sure.

SPEAKER_00 13:00

So we have many times just because also putting things on KSL or Facebook Marketplace for free is just a trap for you know, 10 people to be like, I am absolutely coming to get it right this minute, and then they never show up. Yeah, and so like putting stuff for free, and also just the the flood of free stuff is just like yeah, nobody has time for that. Right. So we've stopped doing that, and it's just like you put stuff on your curb, like we have this bike, and I don't necessarily just want to go take it to Savers or whatever. Like, I'd love for somebody in the community to take it. We put that stuff out there, it's always gone within like two seconds. Yeah, people love that stuff, yeah. Myself included. Also just adds to their clutter. Hey, one man's clutter is another man's clutter.

SPEAKER_01 13:46

Oh, I'll tell you one thing though. There was one time my best friend like lives a few blocks away from me, and somebody, like right across the street, like right down the road from her, had put out this pristine dollhouse. Oh, and she saw it go out immediately, and she called me and she says, There's a sign on it that says free. Do you want me to grab it for you? And I was like, you know what? My husband's on the way home from the grocery store. I'll just make him pick that ish up, man. So he drove home, he had his hand like out the window on top of his car holding this dollhouse. But it was seriously like brand new. Yeah. And it was probably like a really expensive dollhouse, but we got it for free, cleaned it up a little bit, and the girls love it.

SPEAKER_00 14:25

Yeah. Well, and it was like probably for that person, they were like, you know, it's more mental load for me to like list it and then stick through the not this once again, bots are ruining the world. Yep. Not this bot. No, all the other bots. Not this bot. The bots pretending to be people. Yep. So we're all in agreement we're just gonna do yard giveaways. Yeah. We're not doing yard sales anymore. Stop it. Stop it. Because guess what? You're gonna spend so much time putting that little stupid sticker on there that says like 15 cents.

SPEAKER_01 14:55

And also putting up those stupid posters around the community where it says yard sell this way, then it's and nobody can really read it as they're driving by and they're like, what's happening? And then no, let's just do better signs. Let's just let's get the guy with the thing.

SPEAKER_00 15:09

That's like are you paying it? He's spinning it. No, that cost extra. If he's spinning that sign yet, that's cost extra.

SPEAKER_01 15:17

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:17

Okay. So back to a physical clutter. Okay. I'm gonna get really vulnerable here and tell you a story. Okay. Which I've maybe told you the story before, but maybe I haven't.

SPEAKER_01 15:25

I'm just gonna tell you right now I'm feeling a little attacked. Oh, why? Oh, I have I well, wait till I tell you the story. You might feel better. Things that I have to get rid of. KP so much things.

SPEAKER_00 15:36

You are in the the kid phase where it's like you have to keep the kid stuff from one kid to the next, and they're changing so rapidly that like you literally have to keep many phases of things. Right. I'm out of that phase.

SPEAKER_01 15:48

But I also I'm your veteran. Um in not even kids' stuff, like the cups thing. Like I and I'm always in the mood to like purge my house, but I also don't have that much motivated. Hey, maybe this story will make you feel good.

SPEAKER_00 16:06

Is this therapy now? Yeah. Okay, cool. It's free. Um what a steal. So let me set the scene again. Okay, Christmas Eve 2025. So, you know, like literally four seconds ago. Four months ago. So here we are, Christmas Eve 2025. It's in the morning. I come home from I don't know, whatever, probably the gym. And I'm just like, I have so much to do. I got so much mental cups going on up here. And I was just like, you know what, you know what really needs to happen today, Christmas Eve. I need to clean out my cups. My literal drinking glasses, my mugs, my bottles. Okay, okay. So Christmas Eve, I'm just like, I'm gonna clean out all these, these, these cabinets that are just like literally like bulging with cups. So I pull out all the cups and I just put on my best Marie Kondo hat of like, hey, you've served a purpose. I thank you. I appreciate you. Goodbye. Okay, that's Marie Kondo, right?

SPEAKER_01 17:06

Yeah, it is Marie Kondo. I just totally forgot about that. She shouldn't forget about her.

SPEAKER_00 17:10

I shouldn't forget about her. People are sleeping on the Marie Kondo ways, and we need to go right back to it.

SPEAKER_01 17:15

Didn't she finally come out though and say that doesn't that's not really sustainable? Did she?

SPEAKER_00 17:20

I don't care. That's what I'm saying. I think at some point she did. Hey, that's none of your business. None of my business. No, like I still fold my jeans the way she said to do it. And it's the best way. Yep. Okay. Anyways, so I pull out all the cups and I put them all on the counter, and I just like really like brutally think about each thing, and and I don't give it like too much thought, but I'm just like, hey man, nobody wants to use you. So we put you in the the get rid of, okay? Bye. And again, this is on Christmas Eve when I should maybe be like a little bit busy about like Christmas, but maybe I was just like on top of my game. I don't know. Yeah, nobody knows. Um and I like in a prior episode, I said I really like pretty dishes. I like like I love a like a pretty glass, a pretty mug, a mug that takes me back somewhere, like a mug from like a trip or whatever.

SPEAKER_01 18:07

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:07

But then I also buy just like a bunch of like pretty crap ones that have no sentimental value. So, anyways, I just I pulled everything out, I said my goodbyes, put them out to Pasture, aka donated. How many cups do you think I got rid of? Four, three, seven. Is that how many excess cups you have? And I'm talking mugs, glasses, water bottles.

SPEAKER_01 18:31

I probably have at like 15 right now that I can think of that I don't use anymore. And I mean, we're talking like like wine like wine glasses, everything like I think I use two stemless wine glasses all the time, and then the rest could probably go, but I still have them for some reason. My husband was really into for a while these awesome like beer cups, so like different shaped beer cups because they don't fit anywhere, of course. And I I don't know, he doesn't really use them because you just drink that shit out of a can.

SPEAKER_00 19:01

Yeah, hey, yeah, it was 67. 67 67. 6'7, 67. That's the stupidest thing. It's that's so stupid. Actually, I love it. I still love 6'7. I don't know what it means, but yeah, nobody does. Um, I still like the motion. The youth, the youth will like it. I literally like got rid of 67 glasses. That's amazing. Glasses, mugs, all the things.

SPEAKER_01 19:26

Oh, I was I did not put that much faith in you. I apologize. Yeah, I thought you were like, you four can go, the rest can stay.

SPEAKER_00 19:35

So you need to get over your attachment issues because that's what that is. Oh, I definitely need to get over my own. I didn't count how many I kept, but why do I need four of this exact same mug so it looks pretty with a clipping? No, I need like one or two of them. Yeah, and there's really like, let's be real, like, there's only like certain cups you want to use for coffee.

SPEAKER_01 19:55

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:55

Yeah, there's only the certain very particular. Yeah, it has to have a good handle. So why are you keeping the other ones? I don't know. So, anyways, um, yeah, I just felt like, and again, I didn't count how many I kept because that's just none of my business, but it felt so good. But also, like that was very vulnerable. Like I got rid of four. No. What? No, 67. 67. Um good for you. And the cabinet wasn't overflowing, like when I put everything back in and I kind of moved things around because I I do like it when you like clean things out and pull them out and put them things back in a different order. Like it just feels really good. So I put everything back in a different order, but I but then like after I had everything back up in there and I saw my counter that still had like the donate pile, I was like, I don't know how you guys fit in here. Yeah. So, anyways, I only kept the ones we use. I I don't need a matching set of plain water glasses, right? So that when people come over, like if I have like family or friends over or whatever, everybody doesn't need to be drinking out of the same glass, right? I want to be drinking out of like cool glasses from the different places we've traveled.

SPEAKER_01 20:58

Yeah, and then people, it's like kind of like a conversation starter of like this glass is really cool. Like, yeah, they look at it and be like, oh, what's this?

SPEAKER_00 21:04

Like, oh, I got that from whatever, yeah. But you know, did I feel terrible about getting rid of getting rid of so many glasses? Of course I did. Yeah, but it was just that short moment of like, you already made the mistake, girl. Just get rid of it. And I did, and we donated them. And every time I look in those cabinets now, and there is like there's just room, like they're just breathing in there, everybody's vibing. Yeah, nobody's like sitting on top of each other.

SPEAKER_01 21:30

So, anyways, well, also it adds a little bit of whimsy to your life, right? I've been seeing a lot of people saying, like, joy is resistance, add whimsy to your life, like stop going with like the greige, millennial greige. Um, and if you have all of like things that mean something to you, like it every time you use it, like it just gives you a little bit of a joy boost, and also like the whimsy is what we need.

SPEAKER_00 21:53

Yeah, so I love that. Well, and I saw TikTok just barely of this guy being like rather because for a minute there, I was buying a mug everywhere we went. Yeah, and I like we don't travel a lot, but like still, if you travel two places in the year, that's two mugs. Yeah, so that was adding to the chaos, and so those those mugs that I did get rid of from previous trips, I kind of felt like sad about because I was like, Oh, I'm not gonna remember, you know, such and such place. But like, oh well, the mug kind of sucked. Yeah. Um, but I saw this TikTok of this. Guy being like, no, this is what we do. We buy a cup or a glass or a pot, and then we put a plant in it. So then it's like they put plants because everybody needs more plants in their house.

SPEAKER_01 22:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:31

And so putting them in a like a vessel that reminds you of something is that's really cool.

SPEAKER_01 22:36

Yeah. We buy refrigerator magnets because you can never have enough refrigerator magnets. And they fit like in your luggage if you're going somewhere, they're not like gonna be extra poundage, you know?

SPEAKER_00 22:46

Yeah. I used to have that, but I'm I'm at a next level. Yeah. So you're next fridge, you'll probably feel differently about.

SPEAKER_01 22:51

But we always put like our grocery store lists or whatever on the fridge. So um you're not digitizing that. We did, but then anytime I go to the grocery store and try to pull out my phone, I'm like way overstimulated because of like have you ever noticed this is a side tangent. Have you ever noticed how loud the music is at the grocery store? Like that shit's bangers, but like not a single time, and I'm at the grocery store every day. I'm I'm pretty overstimulated most times. I think I got I, you know, I got I got issues. I got issues. Hey, you got some mental cups.

SPEAKER_00 23:26

You got some mental cups. I got some mental cups for sure. Okay. Um so moving on. Oh shit.

SPEAKER_01 23:34

Take that up with your therapist, Ashley. This is a brief pause to remind everybody to go to therapy.

SPEAKER_00 23:39

Fun fact, I'm not your therapist.

unknown 23:41

Just kidding.

SPEAKER_00 23:43

Monday through Friday, I am.

SPEAKER_01 23:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 23:45

But this is a Sunday.

SPEAKER_01 23:47

Every other Sunday, you also have to be through. Every other Sunday I'm also your therapist. And in between when I text you. Speaking of attachment issues, Ashley needs a hobby.

SPEAKER_00 23:58

We we we we go back and forth. Yeah, but it's true. Um, which I'll talk about in a little bit. Actually, am I one of your cops? No. Um, I did find though a really good TikTok that I liked about like just thinking about spaces, and this is not a podcast to be like, this is how you clean up your life. No. Um, but I did find a lot of these things to be just like friendly reminders that your house is not a clutter box. Um, anyway, so flat surfaces with just one thing on them that never stays just that one thing. So just like don't do it. Like just clutter begats clutter. Yeah. Is that the right term? Begat. I don't know what that means. I don't know either. Clutter attracts clutter. Yeah. Okay. Uh second hot tip. Things without a home, and this is my spouse's favorite thing, don't put it down, put it away. So if it doesn't have a home, find it a home or find it in the garbage. Yeah. Um, I appreciate that about your spouse. He he does do a good job of keeping us all in check. Um, entryway chaos. So shoes, bags, random stuff by the door. It sets the tone. So if you just have a chaotic entryway, are you feeling attacked? Yes. Okay, I'm sorry. I'm here to help. These are hot tips. Okay. Okay. So just like clean it up a little. Like my front door, like we have a shoe rack because my kids are always leaving out the front door and we are a no-shoe house. Yeah. So they gotta put their shoes somewhere, but we also have shoes by the back door. So um, but you know, it also drives us crazy when you go to open the door and you have to move like three pairs of shoes. So we do talk about that. Like, have a place for your shoes. It's okay if you have a place for your shoes, but it's not okay if just like the shoes are in a pile. Yep. Um, the I might need this pile, get rid of it.

SPEAKER_01 25:34

Yep.

SPEAKER_00 25:35

No, that's a hard one. That's a hard one. That is a hard one. It's been sitting there for months, and guess what? You don't need it.

SPEAKER_01 25:39

Um I think I think we all struggle with that because of the randomness of chords in our life. Like, yeah, it used to be that we would switch our phones pretty frequently growing up because we would go from like a flip phone to a brick, like you know, and they all had different chords. So, I mean, I think as millennials, we're like, oh, but what if I need this? And then one day you actually find out that you do need that cord because you got to charge your Game Boy from 2004.

SPEAKER_00 26:04

Go to 7-Eleven and buy a new one.

SPEAKER_01 26:07

Kidding, or just you know, get it together.

SPEAKER_00 26:09

Okay, this is an easy one. Expired things, just get rid of them. Yeah. So expired makeup, medicine, spices. It's just clutter pretending to be useful. Just get rid of it. Yeah. And that's coming from the person right now that like upstairs, I have like two bathroom drawers that are kind of my two dedicated drawers, and my bottom one is just full of face masks and hair masks and you know, beauty supplies. And I'm just like, and I think about it all the time, and I'm like, I really should just move like my underwear into that drawer because then it's like already in the bathroom and ready to use. Yeah, that is nice. Um, but I haven't done that yet, so it's just still just it's just taking up space in there.

SPEAKER_01 26:44

That's really smart, actually, that you just said that about your underwear. I've been telling my husband that I want to get rid of our dresser, and he thinks I'm crazy, but I really want to because we have a TV in our bedroom and it sits on our dresser, and he's always like, Well, what will we do with the TV? I'm like, let's mount that. Get rid of our dresser. But I want to get rid of the dresser because I feel like we're there'd be so much more space in our bedroom. And then that would look so much better. Think about it. Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 27:11

Uh, duplicates of everything. Just get rid of your duplicates. Yep. How many can openers do you need?

SPEAKER_01 27:17

You need one. But you know what? For as far as funnels go, you don't need a funnel. No.

SPEAKER_00 27:22

Because guess what? I don't have one. No, she doesn't have one, so she just spills everything every other. No, but like for real, like go into your kitchen and just be like, like, throw away the duplicate items that you have. You don't need two can openers. You don't need 17 spatulas, you don't need all these things. You don't need the big spoons that you're not gonna use because they feel weird.

SPEAKER_01 27:40

Yeah, no weird filling spoons. No, unless it hangs on your nose really good.

SPEAKER_00 27:44

True. Um, visual clutter on counters. So this is kind of like a more leaning towards the kitchen, but it's like if it's not like a daily use item, it shouldn't live on your counter.

SPEAKER_01 27:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:56

So, and I I do like decorative things, so I will put decorative things on there, but like my bread maker does not live on my counter because I don't make bread as much as I used to.

SPEAKER_01 28:06

So one thing about me is I have to have my face stuff, like my like my skincare routine stuff on my bathroom counter, or I will not remember to do that. Oh, I just it's gotta be there where I can see it to really like, oh yeah, I gotta wash my face. I am not an adult, not a serious person.

SPEAKER_00 28:26

Stop. I'm no do you want to feel good about yourself? Yeah. If you have face wash, good for you. Because guess what I just use to wash my face? What? Hand soap. Hand soap? Like the Bath Body Works, like antibacterial. Oh, so bad for your face. No, it's not. Look at my face, it's fine. Anyways, uh, okay. Clothes you don't wear or don't fit. This is a big one. Just get rid of it. Hey, hey girl, you again, you already made the mistake by buying it. Just get rid of it. It's just gonna make you feel bad. And this is taking up space and it just makes you feel bad.

SPEAKER_01 28:58

This is really hard for women in particular because you and I have talked about before. You've you feel like a bag of play-doh that you're just trying to like morph yourself into.

SPEAKER_00 29:05

Yeah, these fit something. These fit yesterday don't fit today, but will fit tomorrow. Yeah. No, I don't know. But it's just like also styles fade. So just get rid of the stuff that doesn't make you feel good. Um, I just barely cleaned out my like pajama, like yard, not like like work clothes, not work, but like yard work clothes. Like, you know, you wear like whatever t-shirts. Yeah, and like at work we get a lot of t-shirts. And I got rid of a bunch of those because I was just like, I don't wear these anymore. So sorry, sorry, babe, you're like getting donated. Yeah, do it. Anyways, just go through and donate it because also it feels really good to have like your clothes breathing in their drawers.

SPEAKER_01 29:41

Yes, and also to not have so much overwhelm when you go to get dressed in the morning. Because that actually reinforces the feeling bad about yourself. Yeah, you're like, oh, I don't like any of this.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

Yeah. Do you know what I actually really like? Is a matching PJ set.

SPEAKER_01 29:55

Oh yeah. It makes you feel like you really have your life together.

SPEAKER_00 29:58

Yeah, so just get rid of that mixed match. That mismatch. Okay. Um, guilt gifts. So those are things that you keep in case someone asks about it. Hey, guess what? Nobody's asking about the thing that they gave you. No. Except me, maybe.

SPEAKER_01 30:10

Stop practicing. Stop giving people things that they have to keep, just give them consumables.

SPEAKER_00 30:15

Yeah. If it's not going to be consumed, just don't.

SPEAKER_01 30:18

Yep. Like for example, Christmas. Um, my lovely neighbors all are very kind and give out gifts, but a good majority of the time it's something that they've made, and that's what I really appreciate, is because it's not something I have to like store. Yeah, a baked good. Yeah, it's like a baked good or like a you know, like the my neighbor down the street. I look forward to it every year. She makes Christmas crack.

SPEAKER_00 30:41

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_01 30:42

And it's so good. I like, you know.

SPEAKER_00 30:46

If it ain't tipping me towards diabetes, I don't want it.

SPEAKER_01 30:49

Yeah, no, I don't know. Gimme, gimme all the consumables.

SPEAKER_00 30:53

So yeah, I'm very much into the consumables. Yeah. Um, just just yeah.

SPEAKER_01 30:57

Let's create a less of a waste culture too. Like, let's just don't even yeah. If I have to throw it away, why are you putting it on me to throw it away? That's so rude.

SPEAKER_00 31:07

Yeah, how dare you. But yeah, so just some hot tips there. But let's talk about those mental cups. Oh, yeah. Because clutter isn't just physical, it's like having too many cups in your brain, too many thoughts of what ifs, too many's of you should have, too many's of can I, whatever. And you're just trying to hold them all at once. No wonder you feel overwhelmed. Yeah. Yeah. So you're carrying 99 cups and a bitch ain't one.

SPEAKER_01 31:33

Really trying to make that work. Just gonna come back for that. Beyonce's listening right now, like, oh my god, stop talking about my husband.

SPEAKER_00 31:41

She she actually really does love this podcast.

SPEAKER_01 31:44

She just texted me the other day, actually. Did she? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:47

No. I didn't get it.

SPEAKER_01 31:48

She said, look out for that Becky with the good hair. Shout out to my bestie Becky. Does she have good hair in the back? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:57

Oh, she's got really good hair. Way to go. Yeah. Must be nice. So we touched the back of our hair. That's not just like you got 99 cups, but you can't care about everything. No. You cannot care. There's so much going on right now. And that is one, like, kind of, I think we talked about in like a previous episode. Give yourself like 10 minutes to spiral out about like the things that are really making you nervous. And then just like move on. Yeah. Like, I saw this has really stuck with me too, because again, apparently I'm just on TikTok all the time. Yeah. So I love TikTok. Someone you gotta dissociate somehow. But I saw this TikTok of this person and they just like they're like, hey, listen, listen. And they like pulled like the the camera closer to them, or maybe they pulled their chair closer to the camera. And they're like, you worry too much for someone who's figured it out every single time. And that is such like I do. I mean, I love that. The things I worry about are things that I've historically always figured out. Yeah. Why are you why are you waking up at 3 a.m. to to worry about it? Right. So, um, but that hit me hard. So again, like you're worried about it. Like a sticker or something. I don't know, put it on. I love that. So yeah, you worry too much for someone who's figured it out every single time. I love that. So I love that.

SPEAKER_01 33:12

There's a girl also on TikTok, I think she's also on Instagram. Her name is Chelsea Explains It All. She has always has like beautiful things to say like that, and like just random hacks and stuff. But she says there's magic words that she uses, and one of them is everything's always working out for me. And I have been trying to use that more of like, yeah, yeah, I don't know. It'll it everything's always working out for me.

SPEAKER_00 33:32

Yeah. And I even made like a note in my my notes app or whatever of like things that are going good for me. And of course, I never like made it back there to like put things in. But like when I do go back and look at those things, I'm like, oh, those were good things, and they're just stupid things. Like I think one of them was like, your sourdough actually worked this time. Good job.

SPEAKER_01 33:49

Yeah. But you're like reinforcing the in that energy. And that's like the very woo-woo-witchy of me and be like, Yeah, you're putting out what you want back. You know?

SPEAKER_00 33:58

You're putting out like we do we need to have like a a mirror talk every day of like probably things work out for you.

SPEAKER_01 34:04

You guys stand like the the Superman pose. Yeah, like they do in Ted Lasso.

SPEAKER_00 34:09

Yeah. So maybe that's like the life hack for the mental cups is just like, hey, everything will work out for you. I unfortunately don't have like a magic mantra, so maybe it is just the you worry too much for someone who's always gonna figure it out. Yeah, I love that. Um, it I don't know, and it just feels like a lot of the mental stuff is just you marinating in your own head. Like, I have unfortunately, and I've said this out loud too many times lately, but like I've just felt like I've been in a funk lately. And people are like, How are you doing? And I'm like, I don't know, man, my vibe is off. Like my vibe is off. But the more I say that my vibe is off, the more my vibe is off. And so the more it reinforces it, yeah. So just like a couple days ago, I was like, stop freaking saying that. Like I like I like lectured myself. I was like, stop freaking saying that your vibe is off. Just say, hey, vibe's alright. Yeah, so I'm gonna just go with it. I'm just I'm just okay. I'm not gonna get bangs. No, that's I've had some bad bangs in my life enough to like not get bangs ever again. Right. Um, so yeah, so I don't know. I I don't know if like suppressing my my vibes is a bad thing, but also just being like, no, do you know what? Actually, A, B, and C are actually going really well for you right now. Like, those vibes are great, like let's just let's just keep on those.

SPEAKER_01 35:26

You're refocusing your energy. It's not necessarily that you're suppressing yourself, you're just deciding to focus on something different. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 35:34

And it's like summer's coming. I just want like good times and tan lines. It's spring time. Which means I don't know if we're gonna have a spring.

SPEAKER_01 35:42

I think it's just gonna be straight to some. Yeah, I was actually really complaining about that yesterday. I was chasing my kids around and I almost not gonna lie, had a whole mental breakdown about the fact that I'm sweaty already and I'm not happy about it. How? How in the year of our Lord Taylor Swift, am I already sweaty in March? Yep.

SPEAKER_00 36:02

Whatever. We're the new Arizona and we just need to embrace it. I can't start switching your lawns over, folks. I can't we are new Arizona.

SPEAKER_01 36:09

I can't.

SPEAKER_00 36:10

I don't even know what that means.

SPEAKER_01 36:11

I don't either, but I don't want 110 summers. Thanks.

SPEAKER_00 36:14

You got 99 summers and a bitch ain't one.

SPEAKER_01 36:17

It's never gonna happen. Stop trying to make Jay-Z happen. It's never gonna happen.

SPEAKER_00 36:21

99 beer bottles and they're all on the wall.

SPEAKER_01 36:23

You know what though, like pivoting a little bit. I think about it all often. Um, this is my therapist Hilde thing coming, is you everybody always thinks they're the main character. And so the things that you're worried about, you're the only one worried about them because everybody else is already worried about themselves. Yes. Like the way you look in that swimsuit, or the way that you acted in that call. Like, yeah, somebody probably laughed at it for like a second, but now they're thinking about themselves again, you know?

SPEAKER_00 36:50

I had one really bad Zoom call that like, and you know which one I you know exactly which one I'm talking about, and that thing will forever haunt me. It's funny though. And it is such a is it the one where it was my fault? Yeah, it was your fault. But it is such like a we have to talk about it. You can't just vaguely bring it up.

SPEAKER_01 37:09

One time. One time, one time. Here's the here's the lore, the backstory. We had these things, they're called scan snaps, and we would use them back when we would use paper files. We don't use paper files anymore.

SPEAKER_00 37:23

But I actually don't know where you're going.

SPEAKER_01 37:25

But the software on the computer would always say, Hey, do you want to update your scanner? And so every once in a while, me and Christy would message each other back and forth, Hey, do you want to update your scanner? And even if you clicked yes, it would say, I can't do that. Yeah, you'd be like, I don't want to do it. And they're like, just kidding. You don't have the right things around. You need admin approval. Blah, blah, blah. And so there was one time my messenger and I said, Hey, um, do you want to update your scanner? And this was like seconds before a Zoom call. And she said, Yeah. And I was like, Too bad, bitch. She left that chat open and then I shared my screen. And then she shared, shared her screen, and everybody saw just me saying, Too bad, bitch.

SPEAKER_00 38:07

So really, it's not Christy's fault, it's my fault. But also, like, once I realized what was happening, I was like, Oh no. Like, oh my gosh. That's still still supposed to haunt me forever. I love it. Forever. But it was my fault. But the funny part about that thing is like we'd constantly be like, hey, I have a question for you. And you'd be like, Yeah, what's up? And then you'd be like, Do you want to update your scanner?

SPEAKER_01 38:30

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 38:32

Like we we thought it was like really serious, like, oh yeah, what's up? What can I help you with? And you're like, Oh, that was the that was the game, is like constantly trying to like reel you into like I have something serious to talk about, and then it's like, Do you want to update your scanner?

SPEAKER_01 38:45

And here's the thing ever since that call, never again have we said anything about the scanners. Oh, we should bring that back. I don't have it anymore. Oh, I still do. I got rid of mine. Yeah, I keep just ignoring it.

SPEAKER_00 38:57

Yeah, whatever. Okay, let's talk about commitment cups. Okay, or maybe it's the classic too much on your plate. Everybody, like, oh my gosh, I have so much on my plate. Oh my so much on my plate. Hey, who dished up your plate? Yeah, and also put it in a cup. You have 99 spots and a bitch ain't one. You have 99 plates. You have 99 plates and a cup ain't one. Yep, that's the one.

unknown 39:21

That's the one.

SPEAKER_00 39:22

Be sure to tell us at the end of this episode which 99 version you like the best. No, but it's just like everybody says, I have too much on my plates. But why? It's because we do it to ourselves. Yeah. And so we're the ones adding to it. And unfortunately, this little duo here, you and I, yeah, we are con we are professional at being like, hey, what if what if we start doing this like this? And then you and I spiral out of control and we make so much work for ourselves. Yeah. To only at the very end of this very long conversation be like, you know what? Maybe what we're doing is actually okay.

SPEAKER_01 39:57

Yeah, you know what? Like two weeks later, we're like, you know what?

SPEAKER_00 40:01

Two weeks later, after like two weeks of evidence gathering, two weeks of like putting stuff together, and then we look at it and we're like, hey, actually, this is okay. And I feel like I'm super guilty of that. I do that all the time.

SPEAKER_01 40:13

Yeah. Um, we we but you know what? That is another great thing about us is that we're constantly looking at ways to improve our systems.

SPEAKER_00 40:20

Yeah, I mean the And not everybody's like that. Yeah, the we've always done it that way, we've always done it this way is not what I like.

SPEAKER_01 40:26

Yeah. No, I that that's gonna be something that puts me in the grave, probably is well, we've always done it this way. Yeah. Makes me want to jump through a window. Yeah. Any window. Um all of the windows. All the windows to jump out of them. 99 windows.

SPEAKER_00 40:39

Yep. Yep. Okay. As moms though, we fill our commitment cups up because we have to say yes, we should do this, I should make time for that. It's the guilt, it's the side of it. And of course, we want to do all the things for our kids. But we need to commit with reason. Yeah. So have you heard the phrase be impeccable with your words? No, but I like it. So it I think it has many meanings. Um, it's like a big one is like, don't gossip, be impeccable with your words. Like, don't don't gossip, don't share things that you know you don't know to be true. Don't, but that's not what we're talking about. We're talking about commitment things ever. Don't say yes to things that you know you're gonna want to say no to or and make an excuse for later. And I feel like that is something I used to struggle with. Um, I think I do a better job now, and if I say yes, I'm gonna do it and suffer the consequences because I'm not gonna make up an excuse to say no. So just like be impeccable with your words.

SPEAKER_01 41:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 41:33

Or just say no.

SPEAKER_01 41:35

And my therapist actually told me the other day, don't shouldn't yourself. Don't shouldn't yourself. Or don't should yourself. And I was like looking at her like, did she just say don't shit yourself? Which is also good life advice. Great life advice. Um, but it sticks in your brain because it's it also sounds like don't shit yourself, and you're just saying don't shouldn't yourself, meaning like, oh, I should do that. I should like don't should yourself, I should do that. Like, if you're gonna do it, do it. Yeah. If you don't, if you're not gonna do it, then don't say you should do it because you're not going to.

SPEAKER_00 42:04

And again, if it takes less than a minute or two, just do it. Yeah. So um, no is a full sentence. No is a full sentence. You don't have to give it a reason. Um, I but again, like I I kind of feel like I'm pretty good to not overcommit myself anymore. And I will say I am oftentimes being like, oh my gosh, there's so much going on. And like sometimes I feel like I'm just an Uber driver at night, but guess, but those are like even though I'm like maybe quote unquote like complaining about it, I am super happy to like run my kids to all the things because they're thriving in their yeah, their areas, and it's just like, yes, that's a long night for me, but like there's nothing better than like taking your kids to the things that they love, and being able to be there for that is really amazing. So when I say I'm like overcommitting myself, I'm not meaning that like, oh, I should not let my kids do things because I still want them to do all the things, yeah. Um but I read a book a couple years ago called Girls Stop Apologizing is by Rachel Hollis. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. I remember so good, yeah. And just talking about like, hey, it's okay to be like a working mom and not being able to commit to all the things because that is one thing that I'm always like, oh, I should, I should volunteer, I should do this, and it's just like I can volunteer at the level that I can volunteer. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 43:15

I think our friend Meg Brown actually covered that in one of their episodes of Justifying the F-word, where she was talking, she was very vulnerable about being a mom and how she was feeling like comparing herself to other moms and feeling very guilty about like, oh, I'm not the mom that bakes cookies with the kids, I'm the mom that takes them to do things. And yeah, I remember that it was so refreshing to hear that because I think we are one, like we're harder on ourselves by by looking at everybody else and be like, oh man, that girl's such a great mom. When in reality, if we just said, Hey, you're a great mom, like that mom would probably be like, Oh my god, like I'm struggling so much. I thought you were a great mom. Like, we just need to be able to be open about like, hey, I'm not really good at this thing, so thanks for mothering my child for me in that way.

SPEAKER_00 44:00

And also, like, you're able you at that time are able to give a hundred or eighty percent, where at that exact time I'm only able to give twenty percent and and then maybe next time I'm able to give sixty and you're only able to give forty. And it's just I mean, and that's also just true in relationships of like sometimes you know, it's not always a fifty-fifty, it's like a this and that and the other, and yeah. Know you coming up though, like you got toddlers and stuff, yeah, and like you're gonna be in the elementaries, and you know, there's always the the opportunity to do cute things for like Valentine's Day or birthdays and stuff, and I'm just over here, like my youngest. I'm like, here is a box of fun dip, write your name on it, and we will call it a day. Whereas I always wanted to be the mom that was like the pitcher with the cute sucker. I don't even know what they're doing these days because I'm just so disconnected from it, but yeah, it's okay. Yeah, because also and I'm not saying it's wrong to do any of those fun things because I used to kind of do some of those fun things, but it was when I had the capacity for it, and I don't have the capacity for it anymore.

SPEAKER_01 45:02

It's slotting your cups accordingly, right?

SPEAKER_00 45:05

Like I wanna I had a cup back then for that and I didn't, I don't anyway.

SPEAKER_01 45:07

Yeah, I want to be able to use that cup that I would have spent the time doing that to actually do something with my kid and like no shade to the mom. Maybe they're making them together, but like that's not my forte. That's that's on that's that's on Aunt Becky to handle someone else that has a different talent than I do, and I don't have that talent. And it's wonderful to have other people and other women in your life that can kind of fulfill that role because then your child gets to build that relationship with that person, yeah. And it's not making you less of a parent or a mom or whatever. You can just say, Hey, like I don't have the capacity for this, but guess who does? But look at this cute thing you did get, and it's super fun that you got.

SPEAKER_00 45:42

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, so, anyways, if you take anything away from this podcast, it's just the get rid of your extra cups. Do you want to know my hottest tip? Oh, you can't. And I am taking full credit for this is a Christie original hot tip. Yep. Put your damn socks by your shoes. Yep. If you keep your shoes in your bedroom, go ahead and put those socks by your shoes. But guess what? I don't keep my shoes in my bedroom. I keep my shoes downstairs by the door. So guess where? All of our well, not anymore because opinions. Three out of five people in my household decided that they didn't like this. But two of us, the two wisest ones, the two girls. Oh, yeah, uh, decided that like it totally makes sense to keep your socks down by your shoes. And that little hot tip came to me a long time ago when I had littles, and you would be like, totally ready. You had the diver bag packed, you had like everything ready, the snack bag, everything, all ready to go, and then all of a sudden it's like, oh, we gotta put on our shoes. Great, I have to run back to the bedrooms to get freaking socks that yeah, kid socks. Anyway, so I put all the kids' socks downstairs by the shoes, and now everybody kind of now that everybody does their own laundry. I don't know if it's like uh I'm already just putting all my laundry away in my room. Yeah, but still my socks are down by there, and guess guess how many times I have to run back up into my bedroom? Never.

SPEAKER_01 47:03

Yeah. Hot tip. I like that. I think if I did that at this moment in my life, socks would be all over my freaking house. Well, do you have like a dedicated place for shoes? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:13

So just put some socks there. I should. I don't know. I'm just saying, don't shud yourself. It will don't shit yourself. Don't shut shit yourself.

SPEAKER_01 47:22

Don't shudd yourself.

SPEAKER_00 47:23

Second hot tip, don't shit yourself.

SPEAKER_01 47:26

We're just we're really good at this. So follow us for more life advice.

SPEAKER_00 47:31

All life advice. So yeah, so anyways, but really go back to your cabinet, see what you can take out of there. Just because you have room for it doesn't mean you have to fill up every space. It's like the empty countertop. Just because there's an empty countertop doesn't mean you have to put something there. You don't need 15 cups. You probably don't need 15 of anything.

SPEAKER_01 47:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 47:48

Except for toilet paper. Toilet paper. You need 15 toilet papers.

SPEAKER_01 47:52

Okay, so that's it. I do have a recommendation for you. What's that, lady? Have you ever listened to the minimalist podcast?

SPEAKER_00 47:59

No, but I should.

SPEAKER_01 48:00

I actually my mom loves the minimalist podcast. And a long time ago, they had an a a live event in Salt Lake, and so I took it to her, took her to it. Okay. And it was amazing to just hear these people talk about like how much debt they had, how much stuff they had, how it impacted their relationships, and then the the like the pinnacle of that, and then coming to the realization that once they got rid of all their stuff, they felt so much better. Yeah. They figured out their debt. Like it was, it's amazing.

SPEAKER_00 48:32

Yeah. I highly recommend that podcast. When you have too many cups, you can't, there's you can't make space for anything else. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 48:37

And they don't need they have plenty of followers. They don't need my recommendation. But if you haven't listened, it's a good one. It's a really good one.

SPEAKER_00 48:45

Okay. Okay. Well, good job. Thanks. I would love like, have you heard of like the time capsule wardrobes? No. I think that's what it's called. That's what I would love to eventually get to. It's just you have like certain staple pieces and you add to it like very, very minimally, but like from a get-go, you're just kind of wearing this, like a similar frame, I guess. I don't know. Yeah. I don't know. Maybe that'll be another a later baby. It's not gonna be because I I don't know how to do that.

SPEAKER_01 49:14

Somebody help us. There is actually a guy I follow on TikTok who helps women go through their closet and find pieces that they already own that go really well together that they never would have put together. Oh. And like they do like a little fashion show, and it's it's really sweet to see them like, oh my gosh, I really love the way I look. I love the way I feel. I can't believe I had this in my closet. I didn't even think to put this together. And then they got rid of like half of their stuff. Also, yeah, just get rid of their shit.

SPEAKER_00 49:44

Just get rid of if you I like one thing I didn't mention is like, have you heard of the one-in-one out? So if you put something in, you gotta take something out.

SPEAKER_01 49:50

I have heard of that. I was doing that for a while, and then my cute neighbor across the street gave me like four bags of clothes to go through, and I was I wanted to keep all of them because they were really nice, and so now I have to go back and do all of my stuff again.

SPEAKER_00 50:03

Anyways, okay. Final segment. Okay. How well do you know your house? How well do I know? Okay. Okay. I don't know. Let's see. So, what you don't know is that I asked your spouse. Oh my god! These questions ahead of time. Okay. And now you have to account for your excess items.

SPEAKER_01 50:19

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 50:20

Shit. How many mugs do you have?

SPEAKER_01 50:22

I have so many freaking mugs.

SPEAKER_00 50:24

So how many?

SPEAKER_01 50:25

Let's see. I'm gonna say like 15. Wait, are we just talking about coffee mugs? Coffee mugs. Yeah. I think I have like 15. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 50:34

Your spouse said you had 14. Oh, okay. So good job. Okay. How many spatulas do you have? And I'm talking, oh, ooh, I guess. What kind of spatulas? Is he it are you and him? Oh shoot. I was thinking the scraper. We have four. He said four. Holy crap. Okay. Well, this is once again Ashley's ruining the game by being perfect at it.

SPEAKER_01 50:58

They are we have like a little jar thing on our counter that we keep our utensils that we use the most in, and that's why I know this because I can see it in my brain. Okay. We never use them. All right. So yeah, that's fun fact about me. How many pairs of socks do you have?

SPEAKER_00 51:14

Oh my god. Your spouse counted them.

SPEAKER_01 51:16

He counted. No, he didn't. No, he didn't. You know why you know how I know he didn't? How? Because there's still lots of laundry. Yeah. There is lots of laundry to be put away. I heard about it. I probably have upwards of like 50 pairs of socks. So many socks.

SPEAKER_00 51:34

You don't need 50 pairs of socks.

SPEAKER_01 51:36

I know. Okay, he said you had 35. 35? Yeah. Okay. Well, we'll talk about it later. Hey hun, I have way more socks than that. And here's the thing is I need to get rid of them.

SPEAKER_00 51:47

I just having it.

unknown 51:49

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 51:50

How many bath towels do you have? So I'm talking like bath towels, not hand towels, not washcloths. Four R towels. Bathroom. Eight. But what like what about like kids for the kids' bathrooms? Bathroom, like bath towels in general. Um that's what I asked.

unknown 52:10

Ten.

SPEAKER_00 52:11

Twenty-three.

SPEAKER_01 52:12

Twenty-three?

SPEAKER_00 52:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 52:14

Did he count beach towels? Probably. Oh, I don't know, maybe. Probably. Okay. How many pairs of underwear do you have? Oh my god, Christy, I have so many pairs of underwear. Get rid of them. I know here's what happened. Okay. I bought all cotton underwear at one point. Well, no, I didn't buy all cotton underwear, but I bought a pair, like a couple packs of them, and then they freaking shrunk in the watch. Because you should wash your underwear in hot water and before you wear them, but specifically in hot water, and they shrunk. Oh, sure. So now I had to get rid of them. Okay. 41. 41. Oh shoot, you didn't give a number. I have a lot. Okay. 41. Okay, said more than that, though. I will say that.

SPEAKER_00 52:52

I love those videos where it's like we're on a seven-day vacation. How many pairs of underwear did you pack? And people are like, seven. Twenty one. Yeah. Eleven. Anyways, what type of packer are you? Because I'm a like just right on the money. Oh, really? I I don't love bringing stuff back. Like when we go on vacation, I try and get I try and pack just the right amount.

SPEAKER_01 53:14

I'm very impressed by you. I always pack for underwear, I always pack a ton. Because I'm always afraid of like, what if I shit your pants? No, I mean no. I mean, I guess that's a possibility, but more so like what if I start my period? Or like what if you know, like, I don't know. I just always pack extra. And I always, this is interesting too. I always pack an extra pair of socks for my husband.

unknown 53:40

Oh.

SPEAKER_01 53:42

He never asks me to. I always pack one just because I'm like, this guy's gonna forget. He's gonna forget.

SPEAKER_00 53:47

One time I forgot to pack underwear on a camping trip and I had to wear kennies. Nice. So he packed it.

unknown 53:53

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 53:53

For me. Okay. Um you are my spouse and I am your spouse.

SPEAKER_01 53:58

It's true. That's why this works so well. Yeah. How many perfumes do you have? Oh, how many do I have, or how many do I wear? One, two, three.

SPEAKER_00 54:05

That's two questions, but I only know how many you have. But tell me how many you wear of the ones you have.

SPEAKER_01 54:10

I wear maybe like three of them. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 54:11

And how many do you have?

SPEAKER_01 54:12

I have one, two, probably five. Eleven. Eleven? Yeah. Holy shit. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 54:18

You've counted them. Okay. Are you ready for the best one? Do you remember when you got to my house today and I was like laughing hysterically at the table? Yes. Because I was like putting final touches on this. Yes. I didn't ask Dayton any of these questions. I just made a bobby. In my defense, I thought about asking him these things two weeks ago and then I just moved on. Because you have too many cups. I have too many cups. But I was like, oh my gosh, I should have totally asked Dayton all these questions. Anyway, so when you walked in, I was laughing because I was just like, I'm just guessing how many. But it's funny because I guessed all those numbers. I told I said the exact the number. The number one that I said? The number I said was the number that I had on the screen that I just guessed. Oh very kind of weird. That is weird, but isn't that funny? Yes, we should. I can't wait when Dayton listens to this and is just like, she didn't ask me any of this.

SPEAKER_01 55:19

He's gonna be like, we have 23 bath towels. I knew something was off. I was like, no, you must have asked him how many towels, and he started counting like hand towels, kids' towels. I was like, there's no way we have 23 towels. Because we like the bath sheets for us. Not like the the towels, but like the big, bigs. We're people, we're humans, we're adults. I mean an adult human, so my god.

SPEAKER_00 55:52

I did like the watching you like count count in your memory. I would not be able to tell you how many mugs we had, or spatulas, or socks.

SPEAKER_01 56:03

I'm gonna tell you we have I have probably upwards of 50 socks in there. Oh, because I also have like long socks or like short socks or little like ballerina socks or I only wear one type of socks.

SPEAKER_00 56:15

I have and then I have like I wear the little ankle socks, which apparently tells you that I'm a millennial. Yes. But then I have like two to three tall socks that are warm for like skiing or just cold days, but that's it. I don't wear any other socks just besides my ankle socks. Puma is from Costco. Ooh, nice. Good one.

SPEAKER_01 56:34

I just went to Costco. Love, love Costco. Yeah, it does not love me.

SPEAKER_00 56:39

It does love you.

SPEAKER_01 56:41

It's it hates to see a girl come in.

SPEAKER_00 56:44

All right, well, let's wrap this up. Okay. Uh, thanks for listening. Thanks for being a good sport. You're welcome. I tricked you. I love that. Yeah, you did. You got it. I thought it was so funny. Um, but anyways, listen to us on all the things, follow us on all the things, check out our YouTube because you can see us in our cool little studio. Yeah. Um I don't remember our sign off. Oh my god. One thing about me is I don't remember our sign off. Can you can you start us off?

SPEAKER_01 57:11

Remember to stay human, stay curious, and don't let the robots win. Bye.